My Mom died Friday morning July 27. She died at home as she wanted to. We had the services for her on Wednesday, August 2.
Even though she was ready to go it is very hard for those of us she left behind. We will all miss her so much. I can honestly say that I am who I am today because of my Mom. She gave me so much. Here is the obituary from the North County Times and here is the eulogy that I read at her funeral:
Mom was born in Vancouver British Columbia, Canada. She
grew up in Jasper, Alberta in the heart of the Canadian Rockies. She
loved the mountains. Her Dad was an train engineer for the Canadian
National Railroad. He drove the steam engines that were used to pull
trains over the mountains. Mom said she always remembered being a
little bit scared of the giant noisy engines. She had memories of her
Mom taking Gordon and her down to the station to visit her Dad when he
was working. She also remembered one time She and her mother rode the
train to a remote mountain meadow where he stopped and let them out.
They camped, spent the night and picked blueberries. The next day the
train stopped and took them home
When Mom was 13 her Dad died
suddenly. Mom and her Mother and Brother emigrated to the U.S. to
Spokane Washington where my Grandma started a nursing home. Mom
graduated from High School in Spokane. She went to Washington State
University where she received a bachelors degree in Nursing Education.
One of her first nursing jobs was in Los Angeles where nurses were
needed to help with the polio epidemic that was then going on. Mother
worked at a few different nursing jobs for about a year and then
decided that nursing wasn't for her. She enrolled at Iowa State
University and received a BS in Home Economics education.
At
Iowa State Mom met my Dad on a blind date in about 1947 (60 years
ago!). They were married in 1950. Their first home was in Hibbing,
Minnesota. Ironically in Hibbing married women were not allow to teach
so although Mom was a qualified teacher she went back to work as a
nurse until I was born. Eventually Mom and Dad moved to Bismarck, North
Dakota where Barbara, Betsy and Charlie were born.
In 1964 when
the opportunity presented itself Mom urged Dad to apply for a position
helping to build a new oil refinery in Brisbane, Australia. Dad got the
job. Mom and Dad packed up the whole family and we moved. We lived in
Australia for 5 years and then moved to England, then Wales and finally
Zaire. In Zaire Dad was heading a project to build a new copper mine in
a remote area. There were no schools for the American and European
children so Mother started the school and was the superintendent as it
grew.
Mom was always an excellent shopper. She loved a bargain
and always got value for money. During our time in Australia, England
and Wales Mom began to collect antiques. Mom and Dad's home is
decorated with beautiful and interesting antiques that she bought on
their travels. There are biscuit barrels, a bed warmer, bellows,
chamber pots, writing desks, candle sticks, tea caddies and several
clocks and that is just the beginning. In England Mom visited the china
factories and collected all the china that the whole family uses today.
When Mom and Dad finally moved back to the US Mom again became
active in PEO, started Bible study and continued knitting, sewing,
doing needlepoint and smocking. Mom continued to love to travel. In the
last years she has visited the Holy land, the Gallapagos islands,
Russia and many other places. Within North America Mom and Dad explored
Alaska, Prince Edward Island where Mom's family came from, the Canadian
rockies where Mom grew up and the Teton's where we vacations when we
were young. Dad says that Mom recently told him that she wished she had
even traveled more
When I think about Mom and all she did with
her life, what stands out and what I am certain was her proudest
accomplishment was our family. Being a mother defined her and she was
the best mother ever. She encouraged us, she taught us, she led by
example and most of all she loved us.
To Mom family was
everything and her faith was overarching. Her faith was the rock on
which she built her life. She was an amazing woman and I think all four
of her children can say we are who we are today because of our Mom and
her encouragement of us and faith in us. Although she is gone I know
that she will live in our hearts and we will never forget her.
Thank you for your kind words Kunid.
Posted by: Marion | August 25, 2007 at 01:30 PM
Dear Marion,
Thank you for sharing the mini-biography of your mother. Just like you, she most certainly seems to be a truly remarkable person, and I'm sure you feel privileged to have had someone like her in your life. I initially came across your blog during the time when you were about to leave Sun Microsystems, and have been following it ever since.
I truly admire this lady, and it is quite evident of the strong influence she brought to your upbringing. Despite her departure from this world, her presence continues to exist in the people on whom she left many warm feelings with.
God bless her, may she rest in peace.
With best regards,
Kunid
Posted by: Kunid | August 18, 2007 at 04:16 PM